Wearing Jewlery Vs. Having a Quiet Spirit

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1 Peter 3 Wives, likewise, submit to your own husbands. Do this so that even if some of them refuse to believe the word, they may be won without a word by their wives’ way of life. 2 After all, they will have observed the reverent and holy manner of your lives. 3 Don’t try to make yourselves beautiful on the outside, with stylish hair or by wearing gold jewelry or fine clothes. 4 Instead, make yourselves beautiful on the inside, in your hearts, with the enduring quality of a gentle, peaceful spirit. This type of beauty is very precious in God’s eyes. 5

   The previous verses were not written to forbid us of wearing make-up or nice clothes. Those verses are meant to bring peace to our hearts. In other words, what God is telling us is: "Do not trust on your make-up or your efforts to win your husband. Instead, believe and rest in Jesus!"

   I remember as growing up. I observed my mom get ready to receive my dad from work.  She always made sure that her hair, nails and clothes would all look good for him. I tried to follow her example when I got married. I always made sure to look good for my husband. I trusted in my own efforts to win my husband's heart. The first 3 years of marriage I was able to keep up taking care of my self, the house and the kitchen. My ability to take care of my self was hindered when we had our first baby. First of all, when we got pregnant, I gained many, many, many pounds. So my silhouette completely changed. Then, when my baby was born I was tired most of the time. I had very little time to do something other than taking care of my baby. Time to shower I considered it a luxury! Time to shop for nice clothes was out of the question. There were many times that I felt anxious because I was not able to look nice when my husband was back from work. I was afraid to lose his interest in me. By the way, when I am anxious or afraid I do not necessarily have a gentle and quiet spirit.

  The reason why I was feeling so anxious and afraid was because I forgot about an important piece of our marriage. I forgot that God was the one who brought us together. He is the one who sustains our marriage! (Colossians 1:17)  Thanks be to Jesus that my marriage is not dependent on my efforts to look good neither on my efforts to do everything right. My marriage is dependent on Jesus' efforts at the cross! I've heard that a good marriage does not happen by accident. Well, I believe that I am not the one who should work to make my marriage work because Jesus payed the price to redeem my marriage from the curse of destruction. He made the effort and the work to hold my marriage together. 

 When we trust that our marriages are held together by the work of Jesus at  the cross, we can have peace. The peace in Christ will cause us to have a quiet spirit.  When we trust in the work of Jesus at the cross, there is no need to strive to get our husband to do what is right. Instead, we can rest because we know that Jesus already did what is right. When we trust in Jesus, we will not struggle to win our husband with our own efforts. Instead, we will be resting in the victory that Jesus has already given us. We can only have a gentle spirit when we are in a position of rest.
 
 My dear readers, having a gentle spirit and submitting to our husbands was not meant to be made a work. We who are in Christ are called to live by faith not by works. When we live believing that Jesus' work at the cross is more than enough, then submitting to our husbands will be a piece of cake. On the other hand, When we depend on our own efforts to win our husbands, we may become bitter and angry, which is the contrary of having a gentle spirit. Today, I encourage you  to turn to Jesus and rest in his finished work.


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Leave the Old Covenant Behind and Come To Jesus

What does the law (old covenant) say? Do not murder, do not steal, honor your parents, etc. On whom does the burden of fulfilling the old covenant depend on? It depends on man. All of the commandments are directed at men, not God. The old covenant is based on man's ability to perform a set of "do's" and "don'ts" by relying on his self effort (his flesh). In other words, it is works-based. How many commandments must man keep to be blessed? All of them. And how often must he keep all of the commandments? All of the time. How many commandments can man break until he becomes cursed? One. How many times can he break that ONE command before he becomes cursed? Once.

We know we are not perfect and all of us have sinned, so does that mean we are cursed under the law? Yes! That is why the bible says:

Galatians 3:10 "For all who rely on doing the works of the law are under a curse..."

So don't deceive yourself into believing you can be successful under the old covenant.

What hope do we have then? We have a great hope indeed!

Galatians 3:13 "Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us, for it is written: "Cursed is everyone who is hung on a tree."

We have a new and better covenant. The success of the old covenant depended on our self effort---it was works-based (that's why it failed.) But the success of the new covenant is dependant ONLY on Jesus' work at the cross! Hallelujah! The new covenant is not work-based, but faith-based! Believe it!

Galatians 3:14 "in order that in Christ Jesus the blessing of Abraham would come to the Gentiles, so that we could receive the promise of the Spirit by faith ."

So you see that the blessings come strictly by confessing Jesus is Lord and believing in your hart that God raised Him from the dead.

Romans 10:10-13 "For with the heart one believes and thus has righteousness and with the mouth one confesses and thus has salvation. For the scripture says, "Everyone who believes in him will not be put to shame." For there is no distinction between the Jew and the Greek, for the same Lord is Lord of all, who richly blesses all who call on him . For everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved."

What is the context of Galatians? Galatians was written to gentiles who accepted Christ by faith, but then later, began adopting the Jewish religion and went back to the works-based old covenant. They were trying to earn righteousness by doing the works of the law. Here is the first part of Galatians 3 so you can read it in its proper context and enjoy it for your self:

Galatians 3:1-14 3:1 You foolish Galatians! Who has cast a spell on you? Before your eyes Jesus Christ was vividly portrayed as crucified! 3:2 The only thing I want to learn from you is this: Did you receive the Spirit by doing the works of the law or by believing what you heard? 3:3 Are you so foolish? Although you began with the Spirit , are you now trying to finish by human effort? 3:4 Have you suffered so many things for nothing?---if indeed it was for nothing. 3:5 Does God then give you the Spirit and work miracles among you by your doing the works of the law or by your believing what you heard?

3:6 Just as Abraham believed God, and it was credited to him as righteousness, 3:7 so then, understand that those who believe are the sons of Abraham. 3:8 And the scripture, foreseeing that God would justify the Gentiles by faith, proclaimed the gospel to Abraham ahead of time, saying, "All the nations will be blessed in you." 3:9 So then those who believe are blessed along with Abraham the believer. 3:10 For all who rely on doing the works of the law are under a curse, because it is written, "Cursed is everyone who does not keep on doing everything written in the book of the law." 3:11 Now it is clear no one is justified before God by the law, because the righteous one will live by faith. 3:12 But the law is not based on faith, but the one who does the works of the law will live by them. 3:13 Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us (because it is written, "Cursed is everyone who hangs on a tree") 3:14 in order that in Christ Jesus the blessing of Abraham would come to the Gentiles, so that we could receive the promise of the Spirit by faith.

(Verses from New English Translation (NET) bible.)

Lyall Jonathan Di Trapani 04 Jan 2012

Self-effort is a gamble.

In response to moms in tune question.

Question: I read this in my devotional today. In the morning sow your seed, And in the evening do not withhold your hand; For you do not know which will prosper, Either this or that, Or whether both alike will be good. Ecclesiastes 11:6. What does this verse mean to you?

Answer: I think the context of Ecclesiastes is about trying to get satisfaction from things of this world (such as money, relationships and work) through your own self effort.

Those things are not meant to satisfy our heart because we were designed to be satisfied through relationship with Christ. Once we have Christ in our hearts we are satisfied and then we are able to enjoy all those good things in the world that God wants to bless us with. Ecclesiastes 5:19 says that it is God who gives the gift to enjoy our work and wealth.

However, if we try to find satisfaction or success in the world, through our own self-effort, without Christ, we are gambling.

For example, a mom may try teaching her child God's law through self effort (sowing) but it may result in failure if the child grows up and turns away from the Lord. The mom does not get to reap what she sowed.

Another example, a man may work really hard (sowing) at his job in hopes of getting promoted. However, even though he is the most qualified man, another employee gets promoted instead. So the man did not get to reap what he sowed. 

That is why without Christ we must sow "here and there" and all day long because some of our efforts will fail. We don't know which one will be successful. But we can trust in Jesus. Jesus did the things we cannot do.  He is the fulfillment of the law (Mathew 5:17) Jesus was the one who sowed "here and there." When we rely on Jesus' finished work for our success or satisfaction, there is no gambling. Christ at the cross  sowed his sinless life so we can reap his righteousness.(2 Corinthians 5:21) He became a curse so we can be blessed (Galatians 3:1-13).  When we received the finished work of Jesus Christ we have guaranteed success. In our weaknesses his grace super abounds. (Romans 5:5)

By: Sofia Di Trapani

CONNECTING More Than CORRECTING

A post by Angela Randall

A friend of mine is doing an amazing job raising a strong willed child, without breaking his spirit.  It can be draining at times, but she lovingly and patiently perseveres with diligence.  

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Play, Play, Play

This past week, as I’ve watched my children play, I remember Jesus’ words:  “let the children come to me.”  Click Here To Read More

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The extra 10 commandments

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Luke 10:41 Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, 42 but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.

In our media society, we are bombarded with information. We have magazines, Internet articles, news papers, research papers, TV advertisements. It looks to me that all the information we receive from the media is adding commandments to the 10 commandments. By this I mean, I've read articles that have titles like: "10 things you should do to make your husband happy." "10 things to do to have the perfect family." "10 things to buy to be successful." "10 things to do to bond with your children."  All this information has the potential to add stress, condemnation and worry into our lives.  Apparently, Martha was not free from the "to do" influence back in her time either.

Sometimes, we fall in the same trap Martha fell. I wouldn't be surprised if  Martha, read a magazine the day before Jesus came to her house where it said: "10 things you have to do to be a good hostess."  Martha represents man's effort, self-reliance, self-righteousness. Martha was not depending on Jesus' love and grace to be a successful hostess. She wanted to please him with her own means and her own strength. On the other hand, Mary represents those who receive God's love and grace.  Mary was observing Jesus, she thought: "Jesus loves me!" "He will die for me and my sins will be washed away!" "If I sit and listen to him, I will be saved by his grace not by my own efforts." This is the reason why Jesus said that the good part, her salvation, was not going to be taken away from her.

 Luke 10:41 I am the Vine; you are the branches. Whoever lives in Me and I in him bears much (abundant) fruit. However, apart from Me [cut off from vital union with Me] you can do nothing.  

Jesus kept things very simple. He reduced the 10 commandments in one "LOVE" In John 15:17 he says: "This is what I command you: that you love one another." Now, he didn't say this for us to become weary and self-conscious like Martha. He does not wants us to love our children or family out of our own strength. We can do nothing without him. Also, if you read carefully, the first verses of this chapter (John 15), Jesus tells us that the only way we can bear a fruit of love is to remain in him. We need to remain conscious of his finished work at the cross.  

If we try follow rules in the bible or in the world out of self- effort like Martha, we can become overwhelm and bitter. Martha ended up being a really bad hostess. She accused Jesus of "not caring," she also bashed her sister in front of everyone else--how embarrassing!  That is the result we'll get if we try to love and "do things" without first feeding on Jesus' finished work at the cross.

When we rely on Jesus' sacrifice for our success then our house, family and children will be saved from any situation. When we rely on what he has done, the good part will not be taken away from us. Jesus' sacrifice represents salvation from the curse of this world and salvation for our souls!

Next time you read anything that talks about what you should be doing, think twice before you believe it. Remember, one thing is necessary--what Jesus has done. Rely on Jesus' grace to bless your marriage, your children and your family. Meditate in God's love for you. He was nailed on the cross to deliver you from disease, sin, death, divorce, poverty, unforgiveness. He hung on that cross to restore your children back to God! He payed for any mistake you've made as a mom.  He has forgiven all of your sins!

                                                                                                    Posted by: Sofia Di

Do you see Christ in your children?

 
When our children make mistakes, we overlook their position in Christ. We tend to focus on their bad behavior.   I've heard parent's call their kids names, such as, "dumb", "clumsy", "silly" when they make mistakes. This is the opposite of what Apostle Paul did when he heard his children were misbehaving.

Paul was the spiritual father of the church in Corinthians. 1 Corinthians 4:15 The church in Corinthians was considered by man an immoral church. They committed worst sins than an unbeliever. Not only were they sinning, but they were also proud of their sin. 1 Corinthians 5:2.

Paul was a wise father. He realized that the  problem with his children began when they removed their eyes from Jesus Christ.  In 1 Corinthians 3:4   Paul told his children that they were acting just like everyone else in the world because they were focusing on men and not on Jesus. This attitude lead them to pride, envy, jealousy, and sexual immorality.

Paul dealt with the root of their sin problem by turning their attention towards Jesus, which is an important lesson we can learn from him. When our children make mistakes, Instead of telling them how great their sin is, we can tell them about what Jesus did at the cross for all of us. There is no greater wisdom or speech than that. God's power is released when the message of the cross is being preached.

 1 Corinthians 2:1 "And I, brethren, when I came unto you, came not with excellency of speech or of wisdom, proclaiming to you the testimony of God. 2 For I determined not to know anything among you, except Jesus Christ, and him crucified. 18 For the word of the cross is to them that perish foolishness; but unto us who are saved it is the power of God.

 Since Jesus died on the cross for the Corinthians church, Paul resolved to see Christ in them. For Paul, their identity was no longer based on their performance. Instead, it was based on Jesus' finished work. That is the reason why in 1 Corinthians 1  Paul calls his children: "Us who have been saved," "sanctified in Christ Jesus," "temple of the Holy Spirit."

If we look at the things Paul mention in 1 Corinthians 1:4, we realized that he proclaims to his children grace and peace from God. Paul knew that all their pride would diminish if his children turned their eyes towards Jesus' grace; there is no room for pride when we are humbled by the death and resurrection of our Lord.   Then, Paul announces them that they have been enriched in Christ; there is no room for jealousy when we know about the resources available for us in Christ. Paul also reassures their salvation by faith. He tells them that God will sustain them without guilt on the day of judgment; sin loses its power when we believe we are saved by Jesus not by our own "lawful" works. 1 Corinthians 15:56  "For sin is the sting that results in death, and the law gives sin its power." Lastly, he encourages them to come closer to God; a genuine transformation occurs when we fellowship with God.

1 Corinthians 1:4 "I give thanks to my God always for you because of the grace of God that was given you in Christ Jesus, 5 that in every way you were enriched in him in all speech and all knowledge— 6 even as the testimony about Christ was confirmed among you— 7 so that you are not lacking in any gift, as you wait for the revealing of our Lord Jesus Christ, 8 who will sustain you to the end, guiltless in the day of our Lord Jesus Christ. 9 God is faithful, by whom you were called into the fellowship of his Son, Jesus Christ our Lord." 


As parents we need to turn our eyes away from ourselves and away from our children's behavior. We need to look at Jesus. We must receive the freedom, right standing, forgiveness, salvation and restoration that Jesus has given us.  Only then, we will be able to see our children's identity in Christ. Only then, we will  be able to share the message of the cross. The proclamation of the cross will empower our children to do what is right.  The proclamation of their identity in Christ, apart from their behavior, will set them free from the power of sin.  Romans 6:14 "For sin shall not be your master, because you are not under law, but under grace."

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